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June 12, 2014. Category: Invitations, modern, printed materials, traditions, weddings

Once upon a time, pretty much everyone subscribed to standard wedding invitation wordings.  As the bride’s parents typically paid for the occasion, invites usually said that “they requested the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter”. These days, with divorce, blended families, and other nontraditional family dynamics helping to put together your special day, figuring out appropriate invitation phrasing has gotten complicated!

Here are a few common tricky situations, and the fitting invitation wording for each.  Keep in mind that you can always adapt the following language to suit your event

The bride’s parents are hosting, but would like to include groom’s parents on the invitation:

Mr. and Mrs. Thomas Abbet

request the honor of your presence

at the marriage of their daughter

Samantha Marie

to Jason Christopher Smith

son of Mr. and Mrs. John Smith

etc.

Both sets of parents are funding the wedding:

Mr. and Mrs. Thomas Abbet

and

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith

request the honor of your presence

at the marriage of their children

Samantha and Jason

etc.

 The bride and groom are paying for the wedding themselves:

The honor of your presence

is requested at the marriage of

Miss Samantha Marie Abbet

to

Mr. Jason Christopher Smith

etc.

OR, including their parents

Together with their families

 Miss Samantha Marie Abbet

and

Mr. Jason Christopher Smith

request the honor of your presence

at their marriage

etc.

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Widowed Parents: Bride’s Mother has not Remarried

Mrs. Thomas Abbet

requests the honor of your presence

at the wedding of her daughter

Samantha Marie

to Jason Christopher Smith

etc.

Divorced Parents- The Bride’s Mother has Remarried

Mrs. Jacob Henderson

Mr. Thomas Abbet

request the honor of your presence

at the wedding of their daughter

Samantha Marie

to Jason Christopher Smith

etc.

Separated Parents have two options:

Option One

Mr. and Mrs. Thomas Abbet

request the honor of your presence

at the marriage of their daughter

Samantha Marie

to Jason Christopher Smith

OR

Option Two

Mrs. Jacob Henderson

Mr. Thomas Abbet

request the honor of your presence

at the wedding of their daughter

Samantha Marie

to Jason Christopher Smith

 

Etiquette formatting information is provided by Crane’s Blue Book of Stationery .

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