Invitation Wording 101

February 17, 2018. Category: advice

After you’ve compiled your guest list, the next step of inviting your family and friends to your wedding should be much easier, right? Making sure you word your invitations with the correct etiquette can make the process more daunting than expected, especially if your family dynamic is unique. We’ve included a few tips and tricks below to help you make your invitation as casual or formal as you desire, while respecting your specific situation:

Photo: Bonnie Sen Photography

Traditionally, the hosts of the wedding extend the invitation to all guests. Your guests presence will be requested in two ways traditionally. One, “the honor of your presence” denotes that the ceremony will take place in a house of worship or that a religious service will take place. Two, “the pleasure of your company” denotes that the ceremony will be taking place in a country club, home, outside, generally anywhere else aside from a house of worship.

Photo: Eli Turner Studios

According to Crane’s Blue Book of Stationery, traditional wedding invitations only have the names of the bride’s parents, not stepparents, listed. However, if the bride’s step-parent has been involved in her life since an early age or the bride feels especially close to her step-parent then they can certainly be listed.

Bride’s Mother & Step-Father

Mr. and Mrs. John Matthew Smith

request the honor of your presence

at the marriage of her daughter

Sarah Frances Jones


Bride’s Father & Step-Mother

Mr. and Mrs. Luke Linden Thomas

request the honor of your presence

at the marriage of his daughter

Lindsey Leigh

Another unique situation can be when both sets of parents are hosting the wedding together. To include everyone in a loving way, most couples choose to state, “together with their families” in the hosting line.

Photo: Eli Turner Studios

If both families are hosting, you can also choose to write out the full names of both sets of parents rather than using the statement “together with their families” in the hosting line.

Photo: Gabe Aceves Photography

Most importantly, try to remember that even though this may seem daunting at the end of the day you should have fun! Make your invitations unique, and be true to your relationship with your partner and your families.

Happy planning!

Photo: Abby Jiu Photography

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