Have you and your fiancé decided to write your own vows? Are you unsure of where to start? You are in luck because we have a few helpful ideas to assist you in the creation of your meaningful vows.
The first place to start is with your fiancé. You both should chat about your respective expectations. Are you planning on keeping your vows under 2 minutes or under 1 minute? Are you going to type out your vows or write them down in a booklet? Are they ok with using humor? As you’re talking about your vows together, ask any question that comes to mind. Once you have a loose outline of what your vows will look like it will be easier to build out your personalized vows.
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Next up is inspiration. Watch videos of the two of you together, or go back through photos of your relationship. Jot down what looking at those things make you feel. Try gathering inspiration from a favorite movie or book. Do you want to use a specific line from a movie the two of you enjoy? Do it! These vows are all about your relationship, and can be as unique and fun as you design them to be. Another place to find inspiration is the traditional wedding vows. For example, use the words “to love and to cherish” as a starting point. Use those words to point out specific ways you plan to go about loving and cherishing your partner. If you jot down what those words mean to you it will help you build your vows.
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Don’t wait until the last minute to write your vows. In the weeks leading up to the wedding, you want to have plenty of time to practice reading your vows out loud. Don’t forget to leave time to make edits as well! Once read out loud it is easier to pick up what sentences don’t flow with one another, and what parts of your vows might be tongue twisters. Try practicing looking into a mirror as well. You want to be looking into the eyes of your partner while going through your vows!
Still stuck? The pros at XO Juliet, can craft custom vows for you and your beloved and they offer a discount for A. Dominick brides! They can even help with toasts and hashtags if you are suffering from severe writer’s block.
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Writing your vows is a very special way to personalize your wedding ceremony. It’s an intimate view into your relationship, so be sure to take time to make this a meaningful experience for your partner, and your guests.